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Magazine of The Compassionate Friends

Summer 2005

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We Need Not Walk Alone®

CONTENTS Summer 2005

Features

Mrs. Butterworth By Marcia Carter
I put her in my shopping cart and took her home with me.  She stands on one of the top shelves in the kitchen guarding my granola bars and my memories...handprints on a wall, a toddler's laughter, a teenager making his stressed mom laugh.

Grief Goes To Work By Patrick Malone
Well since I a writing this, I can pretty much verify that the world will not end if the bereaved reach out for help.  As a matter of fact, the relationships and interactions in my own work environment improved immensely as a result.

Making a Difference: Rabbi G amd kids Kicking Cancer By Catherine Patillo
For Rabbi G, the lesson of a childn's power became peresonal when he lost his two-year old daughter, Sara to leukemia 24 years ago.  "She was extraordinary.  Before the age of two, she would kiss the nurses and tell the other kids, "Don't cry," when she was getting her own blood drawn.  How can one not be inspired by such a small teacher?"

Apple Trees and Memories by Carol Clum
If there's anything I can suggest to those who are the "less seasoned" in grieving, it is to remain open to the present.  Be awake and aware as grief changes the way you feel and who you are.  Seasons change, and the seasons of the heart can change.

Do As I Say, Not... By Chaplain Norrris Burkes
The bible contains many references about heaven, but Sarah was not looking to share in another parent's deepest hope.  Living these past months in a pain that was raw and brutal, she was trying to make it through her personal hell on earth - one day at a time, one prayer at a time, one phone call at a time.

Suicide By Carol Loehr
Most people do not realize that survivors of suicide are constantly faced with insensitive, hurtful comments about suicide, not only from the general public, but also from the media - and even the "entertainment" industry!  Thoughtless comments from strangers are one thing, but suicide survivors must endure such comments even from their clergy, family, friends and other well meaning people.

A Year of Memories By Bettie V. Steelman
But I am so thankful for all the memories of you, Samuel; even if they make me cry sometimes.  I am eternally grateful for all the good memories you and I made together.  So many more good than bad.  Thank you Samuel....

Feeling Whole Again By Veronica Harris
I will never be able to say that I am healed but I have learned to live my life one day at a time.  I have learned to move on.  I did that with the help of TCF. 

From Tragedy, Came Heartbreak, Compassion and Peace By Fred Lerman
I finally told Marilyn I would like to go with her to one of the meetings, but when we returned home I told her that I thought everybody at the meeting was crazy - that nothing was ever going to bring back our kids.  But I continued to go.  After two months, something happened to me.  For the first time, I opened up and talked and I cried.  I had been burying my hurt and feelings.  Something good was happening to me.

Breaking the Silence By Muriel Kronowitz
When a child dies, every parent mourns.  Each one of us takes a breath and silently gives thatns that it was not ours...until one day it is.

Worldwide Candelighting

Departments

From the Exec's Desk: ...By Pat Loder 

Friends, Caring and Sharing
TCF's in-house newsletter for chapter leaders and steering committee members is incorporated here. Many items will be of interest to both membership and friends of the organization.

TCF Patrons

Foundation Donors

Healing in Hidden Places
Simply Red By Marianne Lohrman
A friend of mine said "Something happens to us in grief; we gain new eyes.  We notice things that most other people miss." How true. 

Departments

From the Exec's Desk: ...By Pat Loder 

Friends, Caring and Sharing
TCF's in-house newsletter for chapter leaders and steering committee members is incorporated here. Many items will be of interest to both membership and friends of the organization.

TCF Patrons

Foundation Donors

For Brothers & Sisters
Making a Difference - Because We Can By Daniel Yoffee
Many have created websites, started a TCF sibling group, gone into the medical field, run TCF conference sibling programs...Even though we have suffered our greatest loss, we can make a difference in memory of our loved ones.

Ask Dr. Paulson

Healing in Hidden Places
Baptism by Waterfall By Marianne Lohrman
Grief silently wraps emotions so tightly that we don't realize we're tightly bound until nature provides a theraputic release.

Book Review
For Bereaved Grandparents By Margaret H. Gerner..Reviewed by Joy Johnson

Poetry
Just for a Moment By Phillip Jones

Someday By Deb Kosmer

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